pre- wedding course part 2

the last day.

alhamdulillah, i learnt new things.

marriage is not as easy as you think.

but if both of you work together,

in sya Allah, you can be happy. =)

this second part covers these topics: 

1. relationships in family 

you have to know your mahrams and the wali.

wali means the representatir / guardian of the women you seek to marry. 

guys, you have to ask the permission from the wali. 

usually, the wali is your mahram.

mahram is someone you cannot marry. 

if you want to know more about mahram, click on here

2. dissolving the marriage 

this topic deals on how to dissolve your marriage. 

you can't just dissolve your marriage easily.

see here, if you want to know more.

better yet, ask the ustaz

3. akhlaq 

a person's attitude, manners and moral.

if you want a good husband / wife, you have to be good yourself,

like this Surah An-Nur, Ayah 26

الْخَبِيثَاتُ لِلْخَبِيثِينَ وَالْخَبِيثُونَ لِلْخَبِيثَاتِ ۖ وَالطَّيِّبَاتُ لِلطَّيِّبِينَ وَالطَّيِّبُونَ لِلطَّيِّبَاتِ ۚ أُولَٰئِكَ مُبَرَّءُونَ مِمَّا يَقُولُونَ ۖ لَهُمْ مَغْفِرَةٌ وَرِزْقٌ كَرِيمٌ

tranlated: 

Unclean women are for unclean men, and unclean men are for unclean women; and pure women are for pure men, and pure men are for pure women. They are free from the slanderer's accusations; for them there shall be forgiveness and honorable provision from Allah.  

4. time and money management 

if today, your priorities are to yourself and family member,

when you are married, you have to think about your husband and later your children.

therefore,it is essential for you on how to organize the time.

especially for working woman. 

please balance your time well n do not use your work as an excuse.

this is one of your responsibilities and you should do it.

however, 

husbands, please help your wives.

they are not your slave. both of you are tired, so help each other. 

as for money, it is the husband's responsibilities to give pocket money even if your wife works.

so, please do not use "you work too, use your money" as your excuse. give what you can afford.

wife, please manage the money well and use your money if you want to buy not to important things.

p/s: if you gets dizzy, this link might be able to help you. it's in graphic, so is much more easier to understand =)